Make her feel safe in the knowledge that you love what she’s doing and find her sexy no matter what. When she feels that way, she’ll be willing to push her boundaries and try new things.
Begin from the understanding that men may be microwaves but women are crockpots. We may heat up just as often as men, but we do it slowly. We don’t naturally go from completely cold to burning hot in a matter of minutes. We love nuance and feel bored by the plainness of vulgarity — that should come when the mood is set. Think of it like your focus should be on leading the horse to water instead of asking it a million times if it’s thirsty (or worse, dunking it into water it’s ill-prepared for).
When I was younger a friend confided in me that since he hadn’t had sex yet, when his brother got married he told him everything about how it worked. His brother had said that if he wanted to have sex with his wife he needed to know he wanted this at the very beginning…
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